Evolution of Communication

​How communication has evolved over the past several decades is creating a dangerous trajectory for our human existence. 

As humans we have become disconnected even though we are dependent on each other for innovation, complex problem solving, and the ability to continue to thrive and develop into our best selves, both individually and collectively. 

It is not entirely our fault. 

Working against us is our brain's innate desire to protect us from what it perceives as threats to our beliefs, values, and sense of self. This instinct protected us back in the days when the saber tooth tiger was trying to eat our babies. In today’s world, the majority of these threats are psychological not physical. Because psychological threats impact our thought processes, they are not always as visible to others as a snarling tiger would be.

Be curious.

The true path to protecting yourself from the threats that live in your thoughts is for you to question their validity or relevance in each situation. 

When you do so, you will become skilled at discerning the actual facts in each situation or conversation, and take action based on those facts. 

Those who pause to ascertain what is fact and what is a story in their own perception, are able to effectively engage in communication and conflict. These are the people who are trusted, influential, and collaborative.

As you improve your ability to respond to what is truly happening, instead of reacting to fears, assumptions, and biases that make up your thoughts, you will find the pathway to less drama, hurt feelings, damaged relationships, shame, and guilt. 

You will gain the ability to connect with others in ways that build solid relationships and increase trust. You’ll be able to have positive, productive conversations, even when you may not agree. 

And you will be able to navigate threats to your ego, relationships, and emotional well-being in productive and positive ways.

When we, as a society, take responsibility for how we separate the stories that live in our thoughts from the actual facts of what is true and real, we will become better able to solve challenging problems, innovate new ideas, and have empathy, trust, and connection with those around us. 

All of these skills are essential for us to thrive and to continue to survive. 

What steps are you taking to shift how you communicate?