Sometimes You Just Have to Let Them Go

People often reach out to me for help with challenging employees, especially in the nonprofit world.

Leaders in this sector are typically dedicated to helping both their clients and employees succeed. However, this admirable trait can sometimes lead to a dilemma.

Here's the tricky part:

Sometimes leaders want an employee to succeed more than the employee does. Or a leader might see potential in an employee who isn't ready to tap into it.

When I hear about an employee's struggles, it usually involves a pattern of repeated shortcomings or behaviors that affect their performance and impact those around them.

I then ask a simple question: "Why don't you terminate them?"

The response often revolves around the employee's potential and the leader's desire to help them understand their value.

This mindset isn't unique to nonprofits—it's common in companies where leaders want to "save" everyone.

However, there comes a point when letting someone go becomes necessary. It's part of their growth journey to find their way without your protection. Realizing their potential is their work, not yours.

Don't misunderstand—many employees benefit greatly from coaching and training when facing challenges. But sometimes, I notice the leader is putting in a majority of effort while the employee isn't contributing their fair share.

Letting people go can feel like giving up on them.

But remember: you can only manage yourself.

If you've provided feedback, mentoring, training, and support, but the person still doesn't make necessary changes, you've done your part.

It may be time to let them go so they can find a better-suited role or learn from facing similar challenges elsewhere.

Giving up on your belief in someone else's potential is uncomfortable and can feel like a personal failure.

Try to shift your thinking.

Sometimes, letting someone go is the best action for you, your organization, and the rest of the team.

If you need help determining whether to let an employee go, or retain them, let's talk. I've guided dozens of clients through this process and have a wealth of experience to share.